Freespirit, I was verbally and sadly physically abusive to my wife. She had to drop the sledgehammer on me for me to make the changes necessary in my life. She still wants a divorce which I'm willing to give.You can not reason with him and change him if he doesn't want to change. He has to be willing to make the journey for himself.I'm JTJ on Mevac. Good luck and may your healing begin. Joe
Thank you for sharing part of your story with me Joe; I am sure that your family and friends who see the changes in you are really happy that you have made the positive steps to change; even though it appears that reconciliation with your wife is not available. I have been very hopeful that my husband would "try" to make a few little changes and he has tried nothing and so has succeeded in even less than that. I understand it that he is NOT willing because the "loss is not enough" for him to want to change...I am not waiting for him to change. I am glad that you were able to see through your self-denial and are seeking help and healing...good luck to you...if your wife will not reconcile; you will at least have learned how NOT to try to have relationship with a woman...thanks for website link. Blessings to you.
M -12 Years 1 9 y son (w/me) S-Nov 2009 (and LOVING it; will NEVER go back!) D-soon
