Time to start a new thread...hopefully this is the beginning of the end...or maybe a new beginning???

Sunday, my H came over after returning from his trip and I have to say the meeting was a near disaster. Fairly early in the evening, my H said something to my D that she didn’t like and then she acted disrespectfully toward my H. My H said “Maybe I should just go”. His saying that made me feel like I was just hoping that something had changed but nothing really had. I told him how I felt. He sat and listened…he still got annoyed, but he didn’t leave like he would have in the past. We worked through it things got better after that.

We met for lunch yesterday and that was good. We talked on the phone last night for an hour. He wanted to meet me for lunch and dinner today but I told him I was meeting my D for lunch. He is actually acting like I am a priority…it is so strange.

After our converstation last night I determined....

-He still has his revisionist history. For instance, he says I smothered him during our marriage…only partially true and just when I first felt he was pull away from me. He actually smothered me more than I ever smothered him.

-He would just prefer for us to reconnect without having to work at it. He told me we might as well forget it if we have to have an R talk everyday for the next 30 days. I explained to him that we don’t have to talk about things all the time but we do need to work through things and he agreed (sorry I am past total DBing).

-He seemed to think I am too critical of him. I pointed out that I have spent a lot of time trying to understand him (a lot of it for my own sanity) and I was not critical. I did point out that maybe he was actually too critical of me…he thought about it and said I was probably right.

We met for dinner tonight. We talked about many things other than our relationship. It was a nice evening. When we were leaving the restaurant, my H asked if I was busy tomorrow. He said we should get together and talk about us!!! shocked If that isn’t a change, then I don’t know what is.