Not sure where to start or end, WAW - #2

[TimeHeals]

This can happen anywhere, anytime of day. It's happened at work and I've had to close my office door while I sat there and cried for about 2 minutes. Then I'm done.

Normal. It's how you grow stronger. You learn to go ahead and feel those emotions. You learn how to "watch" them, understand where they come from, and you stop acting on them.

At their root, they are "fear". Romantic attachment can bring out childhood emotional patterns: Fear of loss, fear of abandonment, and so on can create a sense of urgency and induce you to act out like a child, and these emotions feed your ego which is always thinking it has to do something, and your ego wants you to think it is YOU, but you are more than your ego. You are YOU most when you are in the moment.

So... yes, it is normal, but it is your chance to grow stonger and wiser in the complete sense.

When you feelthese negative emotions, watch them. If you catch yourself acting on them, learn to recognize the child acting out. All you have to do is feel them, watch them, and notice when you act on them.

[TimeHeals]

I found something for you to "think" about, John.

Being Present in Relationships - Eckhart Tolle

[john28]

F*CK F*CK

Well, suspicions correct. There were some weird charges on our accounts to a restaurant this Saturday.

Called her tonight at 11:00pm to say goodnight. She said quickly that she wanted to back to bed. I tested, said ILY, she didn't say it back.

I drove to her house.

Car is DEFINITELY not there.

OM back in the picture.

F*CK.

[robx]

and this surprised you?!

[john28]

Yes. Stupidly, yes. I'm going f'ing balls to the wall with a L tomorrow. She can kiss my ASS!!! AND MY F'ING MONEY GOODBYE.

F*CKING B*TCH!!!

[john28]

I will double confirm tomorrow when I drop S4 off. On some wild grace her car is in the shop or something, it won't be there tomorrow. If it is, and I looked all up and down the street and it's parked in front of the house I will 100% know.

I'm 99% sure right now.

[robx]

Yes. Stupidly, yes. I'm going f'ing balls to the wall with a L tomorrow. She can kiss my ASS!!! AND MY F'ING MONEY GOODBYE.

F*CKING B*TCH!!!

Think about this response of yours right now,
it's very emotional,
pretty much how your wife is operating but you give her heck for it.

If she wants the other guy so badly,
let her have him and be happy for her because you don't want a wife that would cheat on you.

Wipe your hands clean of her and this situation and move on with your life.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XtmuXWCFQzE

[john28]

Thanks Robx. Seriously, I'm going to L up tomorrow. Enough of this BS lying and cheating crap. She doesn't deserve anything. She's lied to me and betrayed me so many times that I can't count them all. I can only assume it is the OM because she lied to me and said, "I want to go to bed" and didn't say ILY. Probably because she WAS F'ING HIM IN BED AND DIDN'T WANT TO SAY I LOVE YOU IN FRONT OF HIM.

I have to drop my son off tomorrow morning at her house. I'm not sure what to do. I'm very afraid I'll fly off the handle at her. Very afraid of that.

I'm not sure if i should mention it, or just have her served papers that say I've retained a L.

You know what, I'll give her the benefit of the doubt until tomorrow morning. If her car is there in a spot is wasn't tonight, I'll know. Otherwise I'm going all f'ing out on her ass.

And I'm exposing this crap to everyone, her Mother included. I'm doing it all.

I've just got to keep my emotions in check until then. I'll admit, I called her and texted her "call asap". No answer, probably for the best.

[john28]

Please, need some advice on how to handle the situation tomorrow. What should I say or do? I'm clueless right now. Mostly because I can't keep my emotions in check. I'm writhing in pain too.

Do I tell her that I know?

If the OM is back, she's been stringing me along to go to mediation and get what she wants out of me. That little c*nt. Lying to me and cheating and betraying me just to give me false hope and get me as her little f'ing puppet.

Damnit, I'm so blind if this is the truth.

But I have been wrong before about this, specifically when I thought she went and saw a L, and it turned out to be an office that did "reduce your tickets" L. I know that 100% accurate because I verified, and I saw the ticket myself.

[40andsadintexas]

Don't say a word two her, go lawyer up get advice from him don't tip her off.