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WT, to be honest I never looked at it like scolding. If anything, I thought I was coming from a position of scolding myself in a way. I didn't feel like it was coming from a scolding stance although I did entertain the thought of just saying, "I asked for something simple, you refused, I picked up the pills, problem solved." To me, that would have been more like scolding her.

I did mean "I" when I said I'd be embarrassed to show these emails to someone and I meant exactly that. It was an immature exchange by two people who are supposed to be adults. So I'm not sure where you see it as me talking down to her when I said I would be embarrassed.

Afterward the thought crossed my mind that she probably doesn't see it as an immature exchange on both our parts. She has always had the stance of her being right and me being wrong. That was even pointed out by the Psychologist in his report.

I have to own my part of it and I really did think it was an immature exchange and quite petty from both of us. I think her refusal to pick them up was petty, spiteful, vindictive and controlling. That's what got me going - so I went into the trench to slug it out. Me going into the trench was immature.

I'd love your perspective on that. It's probably sitting in my blind spot because I definitely can't see it.

The statement - "It has only added to the deterioration of our already deteriorating relationship and has added nothing positive to either one of us or our children."

I meant it as it's literally written. This bickering back and forth, mud-slinging and all the other cr@p that has happened has deteriorated our relationship. I felt like the whole email exchange just added to that. It was nothing but a negative interaction which was destructive.

I'm not seeing the POV where what I wrote was talking down on her.

Maybe there's a disconnect because you haven't seen the email exchange.

I'll post them below.