Looking for help with WAW

[Steve McQueen]

Recall the poem:

The rest of us. We need to realize that around the time of Columbus
the idea that the world was flat is a fallacy.
It was what the common folk were led to believe.
Any educated man knew the earth was round. They could see
as a ship came into port the rounding on the horizon.
Or by watching the moon as it circled the Earth, that it did not make a 90 degree angle.
The question really was, since the the trip to the Indies around the "Cape of Good Hope"
was long and dangerous,
was there a shorter course to travel by sailing east.

Traveling the course of good hope and wishful thinking is not the best route to travel. Waiting it out is never the proper solution.
Look East; Into Yourself; Understand your Spirituality; Know Yourself.

The solution to your problems and your depression is not your wife. It is Yourself. You know your weaknesses. Find your strengths, MZA.

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Called W to update her and got her voice mail...no problem. I left her a message with the update, told her I would contact her tomorrow as soon as I hear something and then I wished her a good night.

hope you were up beat. Make sure you sound excited the house will sell/

[mza8]

I was cautiously optimistic. Things have a habit of not working out for us so I don't want to get her hopes up. I was positive though.

Unfortunately the buyer's still have not made a decision. Their agent said they might need until tomrrow to decide. Foreclosure is set for Thursday. Nothing like coming down to the wire. I have my doubts about this contract now. Waiting to hear back from agent so I can try to help an offer along. We'll see.

There is one other option on the table to stop the foreclosure but one that I am extremely hesitant to do. I could file bankruptcy and stop the foreclosure. I've already spoken to an attorney about it. I could file by myself without W. It would be me willing to fall on the sword again. She would not be affected. I don't know...I just don't know. I really don't want to go through that again but I keep asking myself what's worse...foreclousre or bankruptcy, to give house more time to sell. Probably buys about another 90 days to sell it. So many things to consider. I don't have to file until tomorrow so I can see if buyer's put in a contract first. If I don't file then it goes to auction. No sense even running this past W, she won't talk to me. I told her about this possibility last week and she didn't say anything. I'm on my own with this decision.

Tryig to remain calm and think clearly about everything so I can make the best decision.

[CityGirl]

Any news on the house?

[robx]

I personally don't like your bankruptcy option,
if the house doesn't sell, you've only jumped out of one hole and into another. If the house doesn't sell, you both lose out but at least whatever is left of your existing credit rating is intact, I don't know how long it takes to rebuild credit after filing for bankruptcy but you'll be feeling the effects for some time and your hands will be tied when applying for loans, credit, purchasing a car or another home in the future, etc.

Take care of you, it's something you haven't focused on for a while, followup with the other agent, find out what is holding up the contract process, get involved, make that action happen, are the buyers waffling on the price, consider sweetening the deal, do what you have to do to move that property, don't worry about updating the wife every 5min. on every development, it's not necessary as you can tell she really doesn't want to be involved or help in the process at all, it's all you at this point, accept this and go with it.

You can do it.

[Coach]

Take care of you, it's something you haven't focused on for a while, followup with the other agent, find out what is holding up the contract process, get involved, make that action happen, are the buyers waffling on the price, consider sweetening the deal, do what you have to do to move that property, don't worry about updating the wife every 5min. on every development, it's not necessary as you can tell she really doesn't want to be involved or help in the process at all, it's all you at this point, accept this and go with it.

You can do it.

Yes!

"When there is no wind, row."


Been sending arrow prayers up for to get this house sold since you posted how dire it is. You can handle it.

[mza8]

Hey guys, just have time for a quick update. Will respond with more later.

Still waiting to hear back from agent. I am all for sweetening the deal but am waiting for agent to call back. I'm calling her back again this afternoon. I want to find out what the objection is and see if we can overcome it so that will put in the contract. I'm not sure what's holding it up but I'm trying to find out.

I know what's in store for me if I file to stop the foreclosure. I talked to 3 bankruptcy attorneys today. They all advised me to file to stop the foreclousre. They all believe it's the best option if I don't get the contract in time. It buys me another 3-4 months to sell the house. It seems to be a much better option than the long term negative affects of foreclosure.

It's very complicated to be honest. I'll give more of an update later when I have some more time. Just running all around today with this. I'm still very calm about everything and not acting on emotion. I feel that I'm in control of me and hopefully I make the right decision. I really want that contract though.

I was shocked but W texted me earlier today. She thanked me for the house update. I simlply replied with "you're welcome". First time I've heard from her since the not so good conversation last Thursday. Didn't think I would hear from her again anytime soon.

Anyway, I'm off to my office to keep working on this house and find a solution. Wish me luck. I'll post more later tonight.

[idontunderstand]

Anyway, I'm off to my office to keep working on this house and find a solution. Wish me luck.

Good luck!

Better yet, you are working on the problem and that tends to create luck!

Good on you!

This sucks in a thousand different ways and you are handling it well. Keep it up!

[robx]

call that agent, make things happen!

[mza8]

Thanks everyone for the support, it really does mean a lot.

Well, I'm still trying. Took care of some paperwork the agent requested and faxed it to her. Called the agent back again but got her voice mail again. I need her to call me to discuss some ideas/proposals I thought of to help the sale. Talked with my office manager for some ideas/offers to get these buyers to offer a contract. I think I have a solution to any concern they might have but I need this agent to return my calls. Ugh!

I'm doing everything I can think of here. I am taking care of it whichever way it works out. I have the paperwork for plan B and will work on that tonight in case I need to go that route. I hope I don't have to go that route but it's better than the alternative.

Not sure if I should give my W an update tonight or not. I don't know what to tell her other than I'm still trying to contact the agent and waiting to hear from her. I know I would want an update about something so important. I've been on the phone all day with the bank, attorneys, my office, voice mails for the agent, etc. God knows I'm trying with everything I've got.

I stopped by the house today and it was hard for me to be there. Now I know how my W is feeling about it. Now I know why she cried last weekend when we were there together. It is hard to lose it. It was hard for me to be there today remebering my W crying last week. To know that I caused that and hurt her. Made me feel terrible today. What I wouldn't give to turn back the clock 2 years and done things differently to have saved the house and my M.

Whew...anyway, I will once again give it everything I have tomorrow to get the contract (plan A). If it doesn't happen I will go with plan B. Come on plan A!!!