Hello Pinhead
I've just been reading the latest on your situation. As the others say, keep the faith and don't give up on things. I'd give an arm and a leg to be where you are now, but I can identify with the frustration and walking on eggs feelings.

I realize that my H and I kept 3/4 of our iffy feelings to ourselves, afraid to rock the boat or hurt each other, make each other suffer. The result was an affair and a volcanic eruption of bad feelings fermented inside. Even now, I'm not initiating contact, I sometimes wonder if he actually wants to "talk" but can't, wants me to get the ball rolling. Time will tell. But if your W rings you (even if ostensibly to talk practicalities), that means she's taking a step she could avoid if she didn't want contact or a talk with you. Keep on keeping on. I really hope it works out for you. She's a lucky woman - I know others with far less patience.
NCU


Me: 46
H:42
Together for 18 yrs, married 14.
3 children: 2 girls 13 and 10, one boy 7.
Husband had affair, ended it and then decided on separation.
Separated 08/2010