Joe,

I know very little but from my reading you are doing everything 1/2 @$$. You are saying you want a separation, not a divorce. You say you will be paying for two house payments, not one. . . .

I was a total jacka$$ in my marriage at times. I see that. I did stupid things, but those are IN THE PAST. The only way you can repay the debt to your marriage is by being a strong, good person now. If you move out due to your own guilt of past behavior, you are neither being fair to yourself nor are you being the strong confident leader of your family your W wants.

If you want your M, then stay in the marital house. If your W wants a D, then she should move out. Be kind, be strong, but stand your ground.

Last edited by NotFromThesePart; 09/28/10 10:19 PM.
M:37
W:34
M:4 years
T:6 years
No Kids
A disclosed - 9/1/2010
W asks for separation - 10/19/2010
Moving on - 10/24/2010
A ends (and I believe her) - 12/2010
Content - 3/1/2011
Served - 3/18/2011
D Day - 6/20/2011