SoAsh...I'm going to give you an alternate reality scenario, and you simply won't believe it, but I'm going to do it anyway.
Lets say that when your husband found out what you were up to, instead of saying "its over", he blubbered and cried, and begged "How could you do this, are we over? Are you in love with someone else?"
You may think if that is how it happened, that you would have said "oh no darling, of course I don't love anyone but you, it was a silly mistake".
But instead, what you probably would have said was "Well...now that its come out (and you are properly blubbering and begging and I feel horrible but at the same time, I know I can make this into your fault), the thing is, I haven't been happy for a long time, maybe ever, and we don't have enough sex for me to be happy, and that is your fault. I'd like a separation to sort out my feelings. And again, just to make sure you know, this is all your fault, not mine (because I feel too guilty to face the fact that it might be me, not you)."
Do you see the dynamic at play here and why you are feeling the way you do ONLY BECAUSE of the way he handled it?
You don't even know your REAL feelings right now. You are just reacting to this crisis...you are not really getting in touch with your deepest truth...THAT is what your IC is trying to tell you.
