Some of us are talking about two different things I think.

Nobody is suggesting millions of sexual partners just to find somebody good or pass the time until you (generally speaking) do find somebody good. Well, I am sure somebody may have suggested it but I don't think it was any of us.

There is not one person here that suggested anybody have random multiple partners just to have sex.

IMO it's a really slippery slope to judge what people may have done in the past. Nobody was born or put on this planet to serve one persons needs. People can change how they view sex or used to view sex or how they will view sex in the future. If you didn't believe that you wouldn't be here on this site as the entire premise of DB'ing is making changes.

It's funny so many of you take a strong stance about it but when it's posted that a one night stand happened or all the other casual stuff that is posted about dating/sex it's celebrated and giggled about and jokes are made. It's very interesting indeed.

How could anybody be waiting and anticipating somebody? How could anybody possibly know who they will meet in the future?

So what do all of you suggest we do until you find that "somebody special"? Hope they knock on our door and in the meantime explore nothing? Exploring a person does not have to mean sex and if it does, well, I'd imagine most of us have enough self respect not to just be screwing anything that walks for the sake of it.

I once read on this site that people want to date for validation. Does that make somebody less special because they are dating to fill a need? I can't even wrap my head around it but it has no bearing on a future R.

The base issue here is what we each are looking for. Some of us are looking for nothing - some are looking just to date and get to know people and some are looking for a serious and exclusive R. When one knows exactly what they are looking for it's very easy to define what is they want. People in their mid to late 30's and early 40's have had more than one sexual partner other than their spouse. Who is to decide which partners were meaningless and which were not? Certainly not an outsider!