I curious what everyone thinks here given my pseudo-blog of nearly 160 pages at this point. What are my % chances of busting this D, if I end up WANTING to, if I do the following?
1) Go dark, but remain CCC - calm, collected & cool 2) Speed through mediation as fast as I can and give her what she's been asking for these past 4 months (not monetarily, but giving her a S agreement) 3) Staying dim after S agreement 4) GAL, and really GAL. 5) Waiting for her to bring up R talk and anytime it comes up have the set script that I don't want to talk about our past R. Only a new one whatever that is. 6) Dating? I'm not sure about this one, I don't think I'll be ready for a long time.
I kind of feel like I've got a better chance than the average bear.
I don't know what your % chance is. It's not something that can be mathmatically calculated or predicted. I do know that the longer you engage her in negative tones and react to her, the more time you are taking away to grow yourself and also for her to really get it through her head that you mean business, you are done playing her games, you are not going to stoop to her childish level (and your W is very childish, John). I suspect she is still involved with OM and/or should see an C because she does not sound right in the head. I am not saying this to be funny, but mean it wholeheartedly. Then again, I've never met her but your post from the Retro day and the ridiculousness of her actions and the gun and her wailing and then saying she loves you and having sex with you = very unstable. Not to mention her sense of entitlement.
All of things you mentioned above are good and essential. You SHOULD be calm, cool, collected, you SHOULD get a life, you SHOULD only talk to her about S and other things related to mediation. If by chance she starts acting sane again, then you will know what to do. I do not think you are anywhere near dating right now so I wouldn't recommend that at all. No way, no way. YOu need to focus on you and your kid right now. Plus this is serious stuff, you don't want dating someone to come in the way of some sort of settlement you could reach with her. Because she strikes me as the type who will use anything/everything against you. Vindictive, etc. Re: separation. It's not something you are doing because SHE wants it. You are doin git because YOU need to protect YOURself as well. The world doesn't revolve around your W, John. And the sooner she gets that through her thick head and you show her you won't bend to her every whim, the better for you.
Her lunacy is not your problem.
You need to be the adult here because she sure as heck isn't.
