I agree with Soleil. She needs to hear from a third party professional that her expectations are not realistic, or even appropriate.
LOL some part of me is excited for her to hear this. Kind of sadistic. But I've told her the 2-2.5 years before and she said "No one will only make you pay 2-2.5 years! I supported you.. blah blah. You're WRONG! You don't know what you're talking about!"
if only I could have told her I heard that from a L's mouth.
She has another thing coming.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
See, you can keep going round with her or just stop. She is not informed of the law so she is talking to you about legal matters without any correct information. It's pointless.
In some very, very rare cases she might have a point. Yes, she stayed home to raise a child but in her case she didn't really give up anything. She is not educated therefore she did not sacrifice a career opportunity that would allow her to be self supporting in order to raise a child. She did not give up a career because she never had one to begin with. Most of those cases though revolve around very high earners where one spouse supported the other through law or medical school.
You can also prepare yourself for the "mediator is taking your side" because she is not hearing what she likes.
I got a little sidetracked - I'd like some feedback on this. Let's assume I'm successful at all of my objectives.
Originally Posted By: john28
I curious what everyone thinks here given my pseudo-blog of nearly 160 pages at this point. What are my % chances of busting this D, if I end up WANTING to, if I do the following?
1) Go dark, but remain CCC - calm, collected & cool 2) Speed through mediation as fast as I can and give her what she's been asking for these past 4 months (not monetarily, but giving her a S agreement) 3) Staying dim after S agreement 4) GAL, and really GAL for MYSELF 5) Waiting for her to bring up R talk and anytime it comes up have the set script that I don't want to talk about our past R. Only a new one whatever that is. 6) Dating? I'm not sure about this one, I don't think I'll be ready for a long time.
I kind of feel like I've got a better chance than the average bear.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
Let's assume I'm successful at all of my objectives
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I kind of feel like I've got a better chance than the average bear.
Keep assuming and feeling there Boo Boo.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
