Ok, I found it. I will stick with what I wrote though, whether he is in replay or depression he is out of his mind.
You still must not change anything I have said.

As far as everything else you must control YOU and stay out of what you can't control.

Can you seperate your name from the credit card?

Everything he is doing is CONTROLLING, that is standard behavior for someone that is depressed.

You need to try to stay out of it.