I'll bet the LD person is hurting at least as much as the HD spouse. Being the HD one here, I couldn't see it until I forced myself to look at it from her perspective the best I could, and even then couldn't fully grasp it. MrsGGB is/was hurting at least as much as I was in the R; she was also feeling unloved, and the more I pushed sex the more she pulled back because she wasn't feeling the love. It will take an honest committment from both parties to find a middle ground, as well as a lot of honest open communication. I'm currently doing the "love dare" from the movie "fireproof", and that along with MrsGGB's working on her end seems to be closing the gap for us. Stay tuned.
