You can't have everything, where would you put it?

[antlers]

I want everything back that belonged to my family pre-marriage.

* Those are a corner cabinet that was part of my grandmother's dining room set.

* A George Washington statue that has been in the family since the 1800s. Don't know why I left that behind.

* The outdoor patio table and chairs. My mom bought that the summer before we married. She died that fall and we kept the set.

* The wedding and engagement rings. They belonged to my grandparents, who were married for 52 years.

You don't have to do this now. Document these very things and give them to your lawyer. If this goes to trial, your premarital items that you've mentioned will be returned to you. Period. Just get it documented and make them part of the legal record. Keep in mind that, according to the law and the Judge, these items are yours. She can't use your stuff as negotiating chips, so stop working yourself up over it. If it bothers you to deal with her right now about this stuff, then don't! Just stop worrying about it though, either way. Even if you do talk to her about it, now or later, you still need to get these items documented and into the legal record.