I'm really in a BIG financial mess. H took our truck back to the credit union 1 month after we separated and he never told me. He drove it over 2 1/2 hours to get it there and ruined my credit. When I was notified I asked him why and he said he couldn't afford the gas, which was a big lie. He was living with his step-mother and father for the first 6 months and paid nothing and makes so much more than I do.
A few months later I asked him again why he did that and his answer was "I don't know why." I knew then he was in a big depression. He loved that truck. So finally he started helping make payments on one of our loans and got mad because I didn't thank him right away and said "Oh, that's right, I forgot it takes a lot to make you happy."
With this loan he pays whatever he feels like paying. And then around 3 weeks ago he closes it without letting me know. Don't know if he was looking for a reaction from me or what, but I didn't react but was upset since it is revolving and I had to use it for the first time a few weeks before that to pay for my car to get fixed. I figured I would use it since I was the one paying most of it all of the time and I had NO other way to pay for my car.
Mine doesn't see our D13 regularly, and hasn't bothered with my S19 that he raised for almost a year now. His mother and sister that he is very very close to now after not speaking to them for over 12 years because they were throwing a fit that H was going to adopt my S19 are in the middle of our mess now. So when his step-mother and father backed away from him he went running to them. And they are plain out evil. I saw things that use to put me into panic attacks when me and H would be in their company. And to think I thought they loved me and my son because they pushed me to marry H and even set the date so it would be on his mother and step-father's anniversary.
They talk about everyone and not nice things either. They are now talking about D13 (she over hears them), so she doesn't like to go with H since that is where he goes all the time. And all I had was his father and step-mother for family and of course blood is thicker than water so neither me or the kids have heard from them since H left.
So as I type this it scares me that H is never going to come back because of his family, he will not want to go against them in fear that he will lose them again.
