Not sure where to start or end, WAW - #2

[john28]

Steve - quickly, I agree 100% with you. We're both doing it to each other.

As far as more of the same from me regarding spousal support, I agree 100% that is what she sees. But, how do I protect myself when she wants 6-8 years of alimony for a 4 year M when the standard in my state is 2 years? Would YOU give her 6-8 years? How would I make this not be more of the same? ANYTHING I do to protect myself and give her what in the eyes of the law and my pocketbook is FAIR is NOT what she will see as loving and supporting... I have a feeling there is no way I can't not do 'more of the same' unless I give her EXACTLY what she wants.

She feels entitled to that, and frankly I don't want to be paying her alimony 4 years down the road when I'm drained financially and emotionally watching my kid hang all over some other guy she's with - which would be more than ME, HIS FATHER, if she gets what she wants (more than 50%). So, what would you do to prevent "more of the same"?

I've never claimed to be father or husband of the year. Never. She's never claimed to be wife of the year, but she has said she is mother of the year. Hmm. After she takes my S4 to meet several different OM, let's my SON hang all over some dudes, takes PICTURES of it??? My SON STILL REMEMBERS THAT. Then probably talks on the phone with several OM saying God knows what about me within earshot of my son? That doesn't entitle her to more than 50%.

The past 4 months I have been nothing but super Dad. I am a good Father. Previously, I was a sometimes absent good Father.

I only ask this because you give some valid good constructive criticism. So, what would you do?