... I have NEVER been good at making the first step or knowing what to say or when to say it when it came to intimacy. Maybe a fear of rejection or whatever. Our first kiss she damn near begged for it. That is a painful trend in my relationship with anyone I have ever dated. If these girls did not make the first move, I probably would still be a single virgin.
It sounds like you have some work to do. I think some reading is in order. I feel two books that would help are "The art of Seduction" and "Teach yourself Flirting" and "rules of the game". Check out this list of Good Books I have read with Links to Amazon
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712