Here's a story...of a very sad lady

[Dagny-2]

Hi guys, I think I'm doing much better with the not talking to him. If he calls and the kids aren't home, I won't answer it. If it is something that needs an answer, I eventually email him. He asked to speak to me yesterday about a home repair and I only answered the question and got off the phone.

If he is going to accuse me of making up stories about what the kids say I will not share, he can talk to the kids if he wants to learn about them and their thoughts.

He comes over tonight to watch the kids while I go to divorcecare. I plan to say hello, what time I will be home and then leave. I do not want to engage in any conversation with him.

On Sunday I leave for 2 weeks in PA, one week on my own and then a week with the kids. I need to pick up the phone and set up a L appointment and after that start making plans. I'm not sure about DBing from 12 hours away, but his time with the kids is minimal anyway, so he can have the inconvenience of traveling to see them, instead of me having to drive 12 hours every month to go to work.

Him now hiding money scares me, I don't know what he will do to try and make my life more difficult. I'm guessing they are waiting for OW to get another job (he is her manager) and then he will file for D, I'm sure they don't want me kicking up a storm before they have their butt's covered.

I'm debating if I move my paycheck to a new account or if I keep everything above board and don't stoop to his antics. He has removed me from credit cards, but I haven't removed him from the one he left me (my theory is then it is all still joint debt).

I'm really not prepared for this, I'm horrible at confrontations, but I need to get my head out of the sand and start being more proactive.

Dagny