Goes back to my point about how much real core values have eroded! I think this is partly why we have so much infidelity and divorce.
That's possible. However, there has been plenty of infidelity throughout history, it was just very hush hush and swept under the rug because D was difficult to obtain or in some cases impossible. Think of how many people lived lives of misery, disrespect, and exposure to God know's what because of the secretive atmosphere of the last centuries.
Yes, the US is very prim and proper in so many ways but think of who founded the country! PURITAINS! LOL. We still have the most bass ackward views toward sex I have seen. What was created as a natural, beautiful thing we manage to twist into being shameful. It really is sad.
I was raised Southern Baptist. I still am....doctrinally. I have much more progressive ideas about sex than the church teaches. Now, that could be because I was raised in Southern California, not Georgia where the church's 'rules' were pounded down people's throats with a vengence from the pulpit - I don't know. All I do know is that if we don't start being much more open and honest with our kids from an early (but appropriate) age then they are destined to be as stunted in their views of sexuality as so many of us have been.
Ok....off my soapbox now. I just know what kind of havoc the beliefs I was raised with caused with my own experiences as a teenager. I was convinced that due to one circumstance that I had no control over I was damaged beyond repair and deserved what I got. I would hate for any other girls (or boys) to have that same warped vision to get past as adults. It's nearly impossible!
My son has open dialog with myself and Gabe whenever he feels he needs to talk. Nothing is off the table and he knows it. I may not always be so comfortable with the discussion, but he would NEVER know that!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Bottom line, I was not promiscuous before I married Dan--he was my first and has been my only sexual partner. So I do not intend to be promiscuous now that I am single again. It just doesn't align with who I am as a person. If others choose to go out and explore and enjoy themselves, that is their decision. I have made mine, and it feels right for me.
That being said, I would like some lighthearted laughs and kissing. I will just take things as they come, no need to stress about it. If a guy wants more than that, sooner than I do, then he is free to go look elsewhere....it's that simple.
No arguments from me. One should be free to follow their own convictions or code in life.
I dont consider myself or my last girlfriend to be promiscuous. It did not seem to bother her that she had various sexual partners in her life and she was very religious.
<<I will just take things as they come, no need to stress about it.>>
pardon the pun...nudge nudge, wink wink, know what i mean know what i mean....
I will wager that if and when the right guy comes along (one that does not make you vomit after kissing) and alcohol is involved and if he pushes the right buttons, your alignment (as a person) may be slightly altered. Anyhow, I am pulling for you as always. Now, I am pulling for you to have fun (however you define that)damn it!!!!
Oh trust me John, I am more than ready for fun!!! And who knows, you are right, I can't say what will happen until it happens. Nice to have a game plan but as we all know, plans can change... All I need is a worthy partner in crime.
I can't have a sexual relationship that's meaningless. I know it's weird coming from a guy but I've never had and never will. It's that line I won't cross unless that someone is special in my heart. Believe me sometimes I wish I could be more normal lol. I'm also not much into dating or 'sampling the buffet' as some of you put it. So clearly I'm doomed to find someone ever again lol
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
I can't have a sexual relationship that's meaningless. I know it's weird coming from a guy but I've never had and never will. It's that line I won't cross unless that someone is special in my heart. Believe me sometimes I wish I could be more normal lol. I'm also not much into dating or 'sampling the buffet' as some of you put it. So clearly I'm doomed to find someone ever again lol
OK IR, you are one of the guys I am looking for. Glad to know they exist! You will find someone again bc I think there are a lot of us women out there looking for someone who feels the same way we do...
