It seems to me the first order of business my friend is to dig up that old dude you used to be before you were consumed by your M.
I want to hear more about Warrior.
Thank you Gritter for the response and the questions.
I hate this because there is going to be so many "I"s in here I really don't want to talk about myself but here it goes anyway.
Who did I used to be before I was consumed by my marriage?
I used to be very independent.
Had a fantastic childhood.
Attended Parochial school. Disliked it but pays big now.
God has always been present in my life. He has proven that to me over and over. The Ten Commandments are important to me. I am committed to making sure my sons are part of my beliefs. We live for only a short time on this earth and God is present if you dare to look.
High school stunk because I was not one of the popular ones. Thankful for that now.
Bought a Honda Goldwing (New) but sold it to buy W's engagement/wedding ring. Did not care anyway too many friends killed or hurt on bikes.
Got my scuba cert.
Got my Private Pilots license. May come in handy now.
Hobbies in RC and High Power rocketry. Love things that fly. Fascinated with it really.
Love my Job since I have been out of college. ^^^^^^^^^^^ This is so important even if the job changes a bit.
I work on computers. If you love your job you really got it made.
Sure I could have moved up. Glad I get to do what I get to do.
I actually have fun with what I do. Pay is good and the work is interesting and rewarding. I get to help customers and help solve their issues every day. I truly am a fixit person. You must be able to develop a relationship with a customer to be successful long term.
I love helping others in any way especially electronics,video,computers,handyman projects,tiling,decks,repairing things,cars etc.
W thinks I am a genius on most of this. I am not really though. Just have a lot of interest to know how things work. There is a lot of satisfaction in making things work. Definitely some of the happiness in my life.
Love to play golf, got wife interested in golf. (Backburnered money and time) You have to make time for this stuff and every time I suggested, it was shot down. We make money and we have time. Would have loved to have been on a league for men.
Love Baseball playing and watching. I would have loved to be on a league for men. You know who would have a problem with that. Really coming in handy with oldest son. I was head coach this year. He is a fantastic pitcher. Great hitter too. I am biased but he was the best on his team and probably one of the top 5 in his league. Going to do more of this next spring with him. We always pitch/hit/catch in the back yard and it is wonderful.
Not allowed to watch it (baseball) on tv without tremendous guilt from W. She has stated if I watched football for the entire Sunday like other H's she would have divorced me a long time ago. It is ok. Not a big football fan anyway.
I took W on many vacations before and after marriage.
I enjoyed that but the W always was concerned about the cost. Same with going out to dinner or a movie or whatever. As kids became more of the picture, all of this came to a screeching halt. It was always money or time.
Gee, I would like to go biking. With my W it would be great. As a family would be wonderful too. We don't own any bikes. The boys have bikes but it is nothing like I got to do when I was a kid.
I have a spare building in my yard. It was meant to be a shop for RC, Rockets, School science projects kids hobbies, Go-carts Just plain fun stuff for boys when they are growing up. Those were my dreams that were shelved as the expectations took over.
There has to be a balance somewhere. The kids are only kids while they are kids. That goes so fast. On one hand I feel selfish, on the other I am saddened by the loss of this.
I understand that life can get overwhelming. I understand also that a lot of stress is self created. There is a lot of emphasis in this world to do one more thing each and every day. Look where that gets you. You lose what is important long term. You must be able to dream. You must be able to relax. You must be able to balance. You must be able to establish priorities. You must be able to find a safe place at home where you are not evaluated on your performance. You must be able to cope when things don't go as expected because they usually don't. You must be able to face the consequences of your choices and you can celebrate the good choices and learn from the bad ones.
Marriage is work. Lot's of work. Lot's of sacrifice. Thought I was doing that.
