I've been reading Couple Skills by Matthew McKay while H is out of town for work this week. I'm learning a lot about schemas and how they reinforce 'confirmatory bias' as you'd mentioned earlier pinhead.

So I've decided to just set aside this "my H is indifferent to me being in his life" 'label' for a bit - I'm not going to just sweep it under the rug and try to forget about it. My feelings are still a little hurt about those discussion too, and I'm not going to just sweep those away either.

What I WILL do is 'collect evidence' to the contrary for a while, see if that changes my perception of what's going on there. I'm going keeping my mind open to the possibility that there's other reasons why he'd responded the way he did.

Have had a great GAL week so far. Running club, hanging with the pups, drinks with a friend tonight and choir tomorrow. And I miss him. Thank god. It was a different story last year when he went for this same annual trip.

I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.