What a long strange trip it's been

[saffie]

BTW -- it is REALLY time to stop the private conversations of a personal nature with multiple women in troubled relationships,

OT - Firstly let me tell you my own R is not troubled. Secondly, that I have on numerous occasions told Doc that I would be more than happy to email with his W. Thirdly you don't know what any email response to him was.......in fact feeling left out the loop maybe YOUR problem. There is no great level of intimacy.....my H has full access to my emails.

I actually agree that Doc and his W might benefit from both belonging to a group where they can see each others posts. I don't often come on the DB boards any more as I stayed pretty much with the group that broke away a while back - I know you registered with them too and posted on occasion. They have moved on again as a group and created a different 'board' and there are couples on there. Some it works for and others it inhibits.

DB is about one person working on things to save the M and does not necessarily involve the S. I actually believe that when one gets to a certain point the S needs to be involved and FULLY informed, in order to create an open, honest, loving R/M.

I think Doc is getting near that BUT he does have to cope with his W's insecurities. Maybe she would be less inhibited in a 'cyber' situation though.