Not sure where to start or end, WAW - #2

[CityGirl]

Please (I will send you a present if you do this!) get this in writing tomorrow and have your W sign it. At the very least get it in writing and notarized. It might not help you (I think it will) but it won't hurt.

And be sure to put in that document YOU were the flexible for her work/school.

[john28]

Our mediator hasn't gotten back to us to confirm our date next Wednesday. W asked if we should look at others since he's been flaky and not really responsive. I told her she could do what she wants.

In my email this morning she sent me a link to another mediator firm here in town, and said that she would make the appointment but didn't know my schedule.

I'm just going to f'ing call them myself an schedule this.

She keeps blaming me for money problems in that I delayed mediation 4 months, which in honesty, I did. So, I'll take the reigns here. I'll schedule the f'ing mediation.

I'm pretty pissed off right now, but then I remember a quote from my favorite movie:

"I guess I could be pretty pissed off about what happened to me... but it's hard to stay mad, when there's so much beauty in the world. Sometimes I feel like I'm seeing it all at once, and it's too much, my heart fills up like a balloon that's about to burst... And then I remember to relax, and stop trying to hold on to it, and then it flows through me like rain and I can't feel anything but gratitude for every single moment of my stupid little life... You have no idea what I'm talking about, I'm sure. But don't worry... you will someday"

[soleil]

I love American Beauty

Schedule mediation and leave emotion out of it. After you do this, text her and tell her what time and day the mediation is. Kapiche.

[john28]

Done. Made the appointment. I didn't text her though, I called her. Told her the date/time/cost and that it was done. She seemed suprised I did it.

This morning she put up a fb status that was something along the lines of, "I can't wait to get going and stop waiting on my life". I screwed up. After telling her mediation details I said, "by the way, your fb status this morning hurt, thanks." She acted stupid asking why, I just said "go back and read it. have a good day."

I know, I screwed up. Again I let emotions get to me.

If I would have just stopped after mediation details and said goodbye it would have been more impactful.

[TimeHeals]

I know, I screwed up. Again I let emotions get to me.

Stop reading her FB page. Block her if you have to do that.

[soleil]

What Time said. STOP. Unfriend her.
Do not mention her "status' or her "wall."

From now on you only talk to her about your kid and/or the mediation procedure.
Kapiche.

John, I want to SHAKE YOU SOMETIMES! LOL.

[MakingProgress]

I wouldn't have taken that personally, though. It isn't necessarily a reflection on you. I know that I had been putting off living my life for various reasons until I got the wake up call.

[TimeHeals]

John,

What are you plans for John (and your child) for this week and weekend?

Other than legal stuff, I want to read more of that kind of thing in your thread so that I know you are thinking about it.

[john28]

Well, I have my son tonight and we'll probably just hang out, maybe do some art to hang up in his room. This past weekend he got some souvenirs from an event we went to. We'll hang those up in his room tonight. Maybe we'll make hamburgers on the grill together and play baseball outside.

Thursday I get him at lunch for my 1/2 day of work from home. We'll go to the library and pick out 5 new books and we'll read a couple before he naps. Then when he wakes up we'll try to go golfing together and I'm going to buy him some new clubs because Taylormade just came out with a set for 4-6 year olds! He has a set now but the Taylormades are better. I have about $400+ to the proshop from my tournament winnings this year that I've been saving up to buy something, but I figured it would be better spent on something for him. Unless he can't fit into the clubs I'll get him a hat/shirt and buy a new driver for myself.

Then I pick him up next on Sunday morning. Not sure what we're going to do Sunday. I'd like to camp in the backyard but I don't have a tent. Maybe I'll go buy a cheapo one and we can hang out in the woods behind our house (about 30 acres) and make a fire and put up the tent and play around - maybe make smores! I know he'd like that. I've been trying to find a catfish pond around here lately but haven't had any luck... maybe I'll look some more.

Thinking about him definitely makes my day better. I see why you ask me that now.

[Sad_but_happy]

John, I understand why you would take your wife FB post personally. She is saying that her relationship with you has held her back! I get that and it does hurt for the LBS. Do as the others have said and delete her. Doing so send her a clear message that "you're done too"...

If she deletes you first, she again has taken the lead and control!

I personally HATE FB! I refuse to have an account and feel that people who post personal things about their lives are loons.

That said choose your next partner wisely! If FB is their life... DON'T WALK; RUN!