I know that SA is back in school so her time is a little more limited. She had all summer off and now is "working" again. She helps an autistic child in school, so that can be pretty demanding.
SA I hope I am not giving away any top secret things here, but I am keeping the popcorn warm for you!
Thanks for stopping by and thank you Lance for keeping the popcorn warm!
Lance is right, I'm working again. So between that, D12 playing football and S26 and DIL putting in a bid to buy a house up the road from me, I've been pretty busy.
I'm praying for my kids to get the house as they need a home of their own, but it may cause a problem with H.
I'll recap for those who may not know my sitch. In the beginning of this at bomb drop my H said he wanted nothing. Not the house or anything. He said he was going to sign his half of the property over to S26. Well it's been almost a year now since H walked and he has done nothing toward transferring his half over. S26 has asked him a few times about it and got no real answer from his dad.
The kids have been paying his half of the mortgage. In doing the research my son figures there would be no way to afford paying half the mortgage and building a house on my property. So, when the house up the road came back up for sale the kids went to look at it and fell in love with it. They're going for it and if the house passes the inspection the bank will give them a loan.
The problem that this brings up is H's half the mortgage payment. I should be able to cover his half too but it will make it so tight that I'll be living from paycheck to paycheck as I'm paying for all utilities (free gas thank God) taxes, insurance, etc.
If I ask H to pay what he legally should be paying that may push him towards filing for a divorce.
Now, I'm no longer scared of a divorce like I was at first. No, I do not want one, it will be of his doing. I also know that if he wants one there is nothing I can do to stop it.
So there's my story at this time. It will work out exactly as it is supposed to. All I know is that I want to keep my house and property if I can...
Is refinance an option? Would H agree to it? Rates are extremely low right now. Also, you could ask him to sign a waiver like my H wanted me to sign, saying he had no claim to anything you bought/remortgaged, and thereby closing him out of the circle by quitclaim. Doesn't sound like you have anything to lose.
Punkin, My house is on a land contract and there really is not much left to pay. The interest rate is already low.
I mentioned a quit claim to H once and my son also did another time. H didn't budge.
A few months ago I again mentioned to H about signing his half of the house over to S and he started in saying he had over $80,000.00 invested in the place not including taxes. Boy what a change of tune that was from not wanting anything to now being concerned with what he had invested.
I guess what I'm headed for is paying him off for his half of the house in the divorce.
SA - I see that your H is changing his mind about giving you the house...same as mine. I've been told when get it in writing while he feels guilty. If you wait to long they will change their tune....I should have listened. Seeing a lawyer this week...hopefully mine still feels guilty enough to sign it over.
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Yes Lance, I know what that is, that's why I put the word guess in there. H's ow is very much about money (from H's mouth to son's ear) and she's not going to let him walk away with nothing from me. I love my home, even with all the work it needs. If it wasn't for H I would not have it. I will not be bitter about giving him what's legally his if it comes to that.
Mila, I do have it in writing of sorts. My H telling me of his intentions was sent to me by email. I'll remind H of what he said if/when the time comes, but by my state's laws he's entitled to half.
