"Would it be the end of the world, if after a few drinks and making out, that you did end up in bed together for some innocent adult fun? It may be just what the doctor prescribes for you to move on more post D."
This kind of casual "adult fun" was not too long ago considered "adultery" or otherwise improper. I guess values have eroded so much. I'd say be true to your good values because that will maintain your self esteem and also be a role model for the kids for whatever it turns out to be worth.
Hmmm, I guess I am very different. Granted this IS a very personal issue and there is no wrong and right, I dont see how having sex with a person you like, is adultery and I certainly do not consider that having sex equals a marriage proposal and a life commitement. These beliefs did not hinder me from valueing and respecting my husband and M. And no matter how much I liked him, if sex wasnt good between us, I wouldnt have married him. Especially between adults, that know what they are doing and why, I think sex is a wonderful..."activity". It can have several meanings, wonderful ones between life partners, but it can also be wonderful sex with no "heavy" meanings.
My rule is, was and hopefully my kids will follow, always respect yourself, respect your body, never do something you would feel bad about later, in marriage or not.
fb2, I have heard of women saving "it" for their future H but in the meantime doing everything except the act, all alternatives ..., I find that hypocritic and worthless.
I also know that a simple kiss can be much more giving, meaningful or even sick and disgusting than what we think of sex. But that is just me.
BBJ, you are a single, lovely, young, smart adult woman. You know best what is best for you. K
