Since my W filed back in February, court days have been shuffled a bit.
We had one in Aug to have a preliminary hearing. We have 50/50 here in our state. By the time this is done, I know it won't feel like 50/50. Kids and money.
Now we will have one on Oct 4 for temporary placement (children) and financial separation. Even this may change because she said it may not be necessary now. Believe none of what they say...
She has moved out of the bedroom now for about a month.
I stopped with the snooping months ago about the OM.
She indicated she is moving out to her OWN place.
I have no idea what that means. She has mentioned a house, a townhouse etc.
She mentioned she needs to borrow money from her dad to buy furniture for wherever she ends up.
She mentioned a month ago she is staying.
She mentioned on 4th of July she was staying.
Her actions never meet up with her words.
We both see the same IC every week.
Some weeks it seems to help, and some weeks can't say it does anything. Joint sessions don't work and cannot work through this crisis. It is all about them and the marriage is dead. Marriage counseling makes no sense in their world, we aren't married dummy!!
I know this crisis is hugely hormonal. Many perimenopause symptoms. Night sweats, electric shock sensations in legs, been described as rubber band snaps too. Low vitamin D, probably low estrogen, fatigue, depression, trouble sleeping, look up menopause symptoms, my wife has them.
Lots of projection anger. Behavior changes on a dime.
I think my wife wrote all the scripts for MLC. She wrote all the behavior too. We should be making millions by now. Somebody stole MLC for dummies from her. She can't function without it, please give it back.
Getting a little tired and punchy right now. I will have to do a chronological breakdown to journal some of the wacky things I have been blown away with.
