I've read so many threads here by Coach, Puppy, and Sandi2 that talk about leading, attractiveness, and making changes for you. I feel that's what I'm trying to do not for her but for me. I have made a choice that I want to be happy. I've told my W the same and said I hope you'll come along for the ride.
Having said that, how do you break through the WAW anger issue? Her mantra to her friends is I'm killing her with kindness but she's still angry. She has a litany of things I've done, real or distorted by time that she's harboring. We're civil, but that's about it. Using LRT on her would be the worst thing I could do and would only serve to reinforce her belief that my 180 is an act. At first it was but it no longer is. Every day I get a little closer to my S which is all the motivation I need to continue this behavior.
So for the moment I continue on my journey to heal myself and be the MAN I want to be and stop being the scared little boy that has dominated me for so long. I'd love to hear from anyone who was either emotionally unsupportive of their spouse or was on the receiving end. What resonated with you that your spouse did? What reinforced the anger and resentment?
Me-43 W-41 S-3 M- almost 7 W ONS affair - 8/9/10, confronted 8/30/10 Separation - Pending My sitch
