Originally Posted By: mza8

If she would have signed any of the loan modifications we were offered we could have saved the house...for either her to live there or to give us unlimited time to sell it. She chose not to do any of it. She's so hurt and not trusting. Not sure what else I can do to help that with her?


let go of the house. let go of her. that is how you can help her. that is how you can help yourself.

you both need time to grow as individuals. hanging on waiting to see what tomorrow brings is not helping her. its is hurting her.

that is why she doesn't answer your calls. that is why she doesn't talk to you about anything other than the house. she is escaping from the hurt and the pain and the broken dreams and disappointments. free her from that. in time she will look at you through different eyes because you had that strength and confidence in her and yourself.

it is hurting you. you have been at this for a year and things have gotten worse not better. its time to realize reality:

the best thing you can do is give her what she wants. no matter how hard it hurts. that is true love.