WAW The cold & cruel truth!

[MrBond]

I wouldn't acknowledge anything she says right now. It falls under NO R TALKS. You'll find out that right now, no matter what you say or how you act, you will be the bad guy in your W's eyes.

If you want to save your M, then you're going to have to detach. Again, pick up DB and DR. It'll help you with that.

Don't pressure your W to going to C or Retrouvaille, or anything because she doesn't want it. Your job is to slowly change her attitude about that. Come up with a plan. If she pushes you into talking about the R, then politely tell her that you don't want to discuss things at this time.

Take the control back.