Big battle right now with of all things Christmas holidays and the girls. It is my year to have the girls and I gave up a lot last year to let W have them. Seems she has forgotten that and I want to fight her on this schedule. Everyone is telling me to put my tail between my legs and not choose this battle. “ I lose and that is just the way it is. Live with it “ I made a remark indicating W will not be alone for xmas my comment threw e-mail “ you won’t be alone for Christmas you can spend it with your new family “ apparently not a good comment…. One slide in 7 months. Truth hurts…. Just stating the obvious.
For the sake of your kids, you're going to have to start interacting with your W in a more positive manner. Stop avoiding her and face up to her. If not, every single request is going to be a struggle.
Either you do something to address the A, or you do something to address your anger (accept it and move on). Unfortunately you have kids together. You're not going to avoid each other forever.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Canadian thanks giving long weekend and I was without my kids. Exchange was made last night, nothing said between W and I.
I asked the kids what they did, OM and his kids went over for Turkey to W parents and her whole family. Oldest said they were at OM house for dinner one night.
My youngest said OM house was in a basement that is why it was so small. He ( OM ) said he was trying to sell his big house right now. Why would OM be telling my 5 year old anything ????
Looks like from what I can tell OM and wife have split and she is living in the home until it sells.
I am doing a lot better with my emotions these days. Hearing all of this weekend activity with OM is getting easier to swallow. I have dropped the rope and kicked it to the side.
I am having a really hard time with my D 5 and D 8. The exchanges between STBX and I are getting ever more painful for me.
When W drops the girls off at my house the crying is unbelievable. Once I get them in the house they both have said to me " we do not want to be hear we want to be with mom " My d5 said " I do not miss you when we are not here dad" .
As my W only works part time they do a lot of stuff together. My 8 year old said " dad all you do is drop us off at daycare and go to work" I find it hard to explain how I need to work ...they are just so young to see any of this.
The drop offs at my house are so bad I am thinking about choosing a neutral site for the exchange. I am not sure that will change anything. The words my girls say to me are painful to say the least, it's obvious they do not know what hey are saying.
I will be looking into a school councillor for my D8 she seems to be withdrawing more and more. Stitch
Not but an hour ago my STBX wife informed me that her co worker boy friend and her just purchase a home together. The initial wave of emotion was strong but brief. Without the help of all on this site I would not have been able to understand the emotion of loosing someone whom you have loved for 14 years. The stages of recovery for me have been long and difficult but I can say I am happy for them and most of all I am alive, breathing have two daughters who love me and most of all I WILL BE OK. To all who have been reading my post be strong with your own issues. May god be in your corner. As all the cool kids say…………..I’m out. Stitch.
