WAW EA told her to leave

[DangerDave]

Hey Soleil,

The affair part is over - that's confirmed and I should update my sig - there's been no contact that I can verify and it was brought up by me about 2 months ago and the resulting blowout reinforced that for me - wasn't pretty but got me the info I needed.

There has been another "friend" that she hangs out with, always in the company of her other single girlfriends that still looks to be platonic in nature, I know the guy as well, not my friend but I know him through her, anyway I have voiced my concerns about this guy as well to her, but I really think it's viewed as jealousy on my part - so at a bit of a loss whether to pursue it farther or leave it lay - I am detaching and think that letting this 3 amigo friendship with her BFF and this guy is just drawing me back in.

We were apart all weekend and when we returned separately (planned outings for both) we actually got along pretty well, talked more and was "normalish" to a degree. She's still working on her detachment from me, as I am no longer getting phone calls or texts from her during the day, where I was getting 1 or 2 - she is also checking in on the kids through them rather than me - again part of the codependency no more way to cope - from what I know of it.

As for hangin out on the weekends we have been doing things separately, we both ride bikes and since she has no interest riding with me, we each take a day on the weekend and head out with our own groups. We come back together for dinner and that's about it- she's pretty good at getting away from via the kids, mother's, group therapy(for the emotional abuse proclaimed) and bike rides.

So taking her lead I try to pull off the same and keep busy with things I enjoy as well and well that pretty much keeps up apart most of the week.

It's pretty quiet at home and drives me nut's but I do manage to keep my focus off her and keep it on myself and the kids as much as possible!

Thanks

DD