I agree, I agree. Even though I don't expect her to say, "Since you stopped helping me, I realize how much I need you in my life. Let's try to work things out." Yes, that's sarcasm.
It's just been hard not to contribute while I am still living there. I feel like Jason Bateman in Juno.
Also, she will totally notice that I am no longer doing much. She does all the food shopping now, she won't even let me go out for milk. But if I am at the store she will allow me to pick things up for her (yes, I ask). I guess I felt that if I stop helping her it will just cause friction and ill feelings between us when I would rather things stay positive.
I think she's starting to feel increasingly guilty asking me to do anything. She's trying to handle things herself. Our koi pond needs some significant repair and she said to me, "Do you think [repair man] can fix the pond?" As if she's fishing for me to say, "I will call him for you." I just said, "Probably." Then yesterday, after about 5 days of her doing nothing, I said, "Do you want me to call [repair man]?" We then talked about the repair man's quirky personality and had a laugh at his expense. I think she was a little relieved that I stepped in and called him.
