Wife states she is not in love with me anymore!

[HopelessInLove]

No, I did not have an A.

I threatened her a S and D because we were in this endless cycle.
She would nag, I would get further away. Even though she nagged to be closer to me, dates, time together, or alone time.
I would want affection and not recieve it. She also feels like any time she shares some information I have used it against her. She has been speaking in absolutes and has not backed away from that line.

"By not being a choice."

This is confusing. What do you mean? Go dark? I don't know how productive that would be. She has wanted me to change, and I want to change, I have been feeling better of myself, and now I am hearing her bring up the R more frequently.