Are you literally saying that the last resort is to STOP being helpful and a good working parter (with respect to her and the home)? In other words, let her take care of everything alone?
I agree that DB and therapy has made me into a new person with a new list of priorities. Even my W has noticed that and she acknowledged it. I didn't mean to imply that it was a failure, I have gotten so much amazing advice, but more that the DB work hasn't initiated a change of heart. Maybe I thought it might.
