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How long would a W hold on if her feelings have not changed in several months?


How long have you been doing that works without setting yourself back? Give her what she wants.

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I am feeling better when I am in control, but I do not want to come across as controlling.


Being in control of yourself is not controlling her.

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In our conversation she did say that when she has backed off a little I assume that thing become much better and I jump over the line.


What is she telling you? Don't jump the line. Give her the space she wants.

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Do I take her stalling as she is she waiting for me to lead her feelings back to loving me?


Yes.

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If I am leading what am I doing to get her to follow?


Become attractive again. She married you once before. She was attracted to you. Right now she is not. What did she like about you?

Drop that rope that keeps pulling you over the line.

Remember, she is watching your every move. If she does not believe that your changes are sticking, they probably have not yet.

Enjoy the Silence