I don't disagree.... and I do think some consideration should be made for the LBS who is forced to pay when they had no say in their marriage ending.
I think though the one thing that is very difficult to understand is all the particulars. Sure, it sounds like I made out good and I did. But lots was behind that. My H spent 30K or OUR money on his affair w/o me knowing in ONE summer. My H took our only car w/o any legal agreement in place leaving me stranded w/o transportation when I was very ill. My H moved twice w/o telling me. Some of what he owes me now is merely him repaying the money he took from US that was spent on OW.
My H also ignored a court order for us to come up with an agreement and took off on vacation with his GF (that her brother paid for btw) and let me know 12 hours before he left. And he left me to clean up THAT mess with my attny and the court.
Sometimes it does appear that one takes someone for all they are worth but often times there is LOTS behind that.
I agree... anybody can do anything but sometimes if one spouse has made less it does take a while for them to catch up. WAS rarely consider things like that when they bail. Had they ended the marriage in a different way maybe better plans could have been made.
