Help, ex coming here in 2 days!

[Augtan]

Optimist,
Thanks so much for responding and being so honest. I agree with everything you said! I am very emotionally attached to my XH! But, having said that, I truly don't expect anything to change, because it has happened so many times in the past that I know it won't change anything. That said, it doesn't mean I don't want something to change and for him to want to come home, I just don't expect it will happen or get my hopes up. I know he is not at a point to commit to me or anyone else. He is still very messed up.

You are so right about the other relationships too, I am not emotionally available to anyone right now and have told the one guy that many times.

You are being very strong and doing the right thing, plus you are very honest with yourself about your true feeling for your XH. I don't have as many peaks and valleys as you might imagine cause my XH lives far away too, but when we are together it is either really great or really bad.

How old is your son? How often does your ex see him? I know what it is like to be in a new town, working full-time and raising your kid(s) alone...it is not fun and very hard. I found a good friend thru Divorce Care, have you done anything like that yet? If you have then you will know what I mean when I say...I am staying at the line and waiting..don't know how long I will be there, but for now it is what I want to do. Not putting my life on hold or anything, I did move 700 miles away and have GAL, but I am not going to be in a serious relationship or anything like that any time soon at all. I am healing still and don't care that people keep telling me to "move on", my least favorite phrase EVER!! I am going forward, my kids are my world, and I am peaceful. My XH sees my changes and I did them to begin with to save my marriege, but now keep them going for me and my kids.

A