Alright, I can understand that. I definitely don't want to be that H who left his W standing over her dead grandpa's body not next to her.
New plan: be the ROCK.
Can you smell what's cookin?
Awesome! And don't show weakness. She will try to bait you in. She WILL try to bait you in. She WILL WILL WILL try and bait you in. If she is successful, she WILL NOT respect you.
This unfortunate event has created a HUGE opportunity.
Don't blow it this time...
M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14 EA - July 2010 NC w/EA - Nov 2010 Piecing - Jan 2011 I ask for div - Jan 2012 Div papers filed - Mar 2012 I move out - July 2012 Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012
Haha, I wish. The L that was recommended is booked solid until Oct. 11th. This is the L that was the Country Club's recommendation that EVERYONE came back and said to use. I'm not worried about it, I'm getting the best of the best - I can understand why this L is booked.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
I taught you were broke, the trust fund isnt in your name, you are needing to refi during a separation and you got upset over her taking a hundred bucks, why do you need an expensive attorney if there is nothing to fight over but debt?
I taught you were broke, the trust fund isnt in your name, you are needing to refi during a separation and you got upset over her taking a hundred bucks, why do you need an expensive attorney if there is nothing to fight over but debt?
Two words:
Alimony Custody
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
John, for a few hundred dollars you can have a L write up a draft to freeze assets and accounts until mediation. And any changes or movement in monies can be done only in writing from both parties.
A lot can happen in 2 weeks. She has already shown that she does not need your permission to do anything...
Not to mention the fact that her having knowlege that you retained a L is a great sign of GAL'ing and moving on and showing her that you have reached your breaking point and you're ready to let go.
You want to regain control? Send the papers!
BUT, make sure she is served at least 3 days after the funeral. This way you show her support, you show her compassion, and you be her rock, and then BANG!!! 2x4 upside the head! She sees that you will not be there forever!
If you play this right (and I hate to turn it into a game), but if played right, she will take you seriously! Because right now she does not! You are wraped around her finger. And she knows it!
M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14 EA - July 2010 NC w/EA - Nov 2010 Piecing - Jan 2011 I ask for div - Jan 2012 Div papers filed - Mar 2012 I move out - July 2012 Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012
John, for a few hundred dollars you can have a L write up a draft to freeze assets and accounts until mediation. And any changes or movement in monies can be done only in writing from both parties.
A lot can happen in 2 weeks. She has already shown that she does not need your permission to do anything...
Not to mention the fact that her having knowlege that you retained a L is a great sign of GAL'ing and moving on and showing her that you have reached your breaking point and you're ready to let go.
You want to regain control? Send the papers!
BUT, make sure she is served at least 3 days after the funeral. This way you show her support, you show her compassion, and you be her rock, and then BANG!!! 2x4 upside the head! She sees that you will not be there forever!
If you play this right (and I hate to turn it into a game), but if played right, she will take you seriously! Because right now she does not! You are wraped around her finger. And she knows it!
Ok couple of things - I haven't retained a L, only seeing one - She doesn't know I'm seeing one, or has seen one - I can't serve her. I live in a 1 year separation state before you can file - I guess I could have her served papers that I've retained a L? - Still need to work out a solid custody agreement until mediation is over. We've been just doing what is easier on each other up until now, not really structured.
No news on grandpa.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
