Al, I think MHL hit it right on the head. It would fit for my W like a glove. I fully anticipate this type of communication from my wife in the future. I am watching your thread closer now because it is so similar to where I will be once I am separated or divorced. I am going to need to know how the best way to respond will be. For me it will be especially difficult because the IC will want to keep a friendship alive so there is a safe place to come back when the crisis is over. However, they have to be able to crash on their own to fix their issues. So there is a paradox here. Balance will have to be made somewhere. Plus, with kids involved, they will watch and want to know Dad still loves Mom by the way he treats her through actions more than words.
My wife has noted that she is crazy by the things she has said.
We are dealing with an adolescent mind here. That is very hard to get a grip on. His responses are much like my W's.
This weekend, during church, my wife asked me if it is ok with me for her to attend the same church every Sunday because I know you will "hate" me after this (divorce). This is the first Sunday she has gone to church in a month now. Reconnecting? I doubt it. She has so far to go yet. My answer was " W, you know me better than that."
