BTW -- it is REALLY time to stop the private conversations of a personal nature with multiple women in troubled relationships, none of which your W knows about. Enough. Post here or join a support group that your W knows about or tell W about all the women you email here.
If you are uncomfortable with the last option, that should tell you (1) it is because it is inappropriate and thus (2) it is interfering with the trust and intimacy in your own R.
It really is NOT OK to keep private relationships with that level of intimacy a secret from your spouse. Stop them and fess up.
