And DON'T let it go on for an hour! That convo should have been over after five minutes. Beyond that is just her berating you, not discussing with you, and you shouldn't allow yourself to be berated.
Really strange goings on at home over the weekend and I need your thoughts.
I told my wife I was going out on Saturday night, she was asking where, who with, etc, I did not say at first, then told her it was with a mate of mine, she was getting really fustrated that I was not saying, then when I told her, she said why didn't I just say that at the start!
Saturday had been a good day, everything was fine, she was asking loads of questions about me losing weight and taking my meds, how I felt, etc, all v nice and showing an interest in me?
Anyway just before I was going to get ready she said that her friend had asked her to visit her and arranged for the kids to sleep out, no problem.
She was in our bedroom getting ready and I went in to get ready myself, as she was basically naked I asked her how long she would be so I could get ready myself, she said it's not a problem just get ready, so here I am in the shower naked, with my wife walking round virtually naked as if everything was fine, very surreal!!!
Anyway I start getting dressed and put on some new clothes I had bought, I could see her looking out of the corner of her eye, when I was ready, I must say I look pretty good and felt good about myself, she then started asking where did I get that from and how much was it, all in a nice way not looking for an arguement or anything.
Anyway I go out to see my friend, all good, had a good time, then went home, she was not in yet so I just went to bed, I heard her get in shortly after me and she went into the room she is sleeping in.
The next morning she was slightly cold and not very talkative as the previous night and I fely I had done something wrong??
I never asked any questions and got on with my day, I cooked Sunday lunch again, she once again came and sat with the family and we all ate together, all very nice but again she seemed rather cold to me, no problem I just got on with it.
I went for a run late evening when the kids were in bed, said night to her went for a shower and went to bed.
What I don't understand is the change in her attitude over night, was she hoping that I would make a move on her with the kids out for the night? that didn't happen!! Is she angry that I'm getting on with things?
Why walk round semi-naked where I am, I feel she is trying to tease me or bait me?
I don't know what's going on with her thoughts, like I said all is very calm at home and there are no arguements, I'm just getting on with me and leaving her alone, but I'm just confused about some of her actions, any thoughts????
Plain and simple.. There is someone else in the picture. Bank on it.
You should know better after having gone through this once before... There WAS someone else in the picture back then and you can bet your last dollar there is someone else again. You obviously are falling for the same lies again this time..
Wake up.. Do your homework.. There is someone else in the picture. This is how women act when they have someone else that they are interested in. Suddenly you can do no right. Suddenly there is nothing you can do to save the relationship. If there wasn't someone else she would be open to working things out.
You maybe right but at the moment I have nothing to base that on, there are no real tell tale signs.
The reason she does not once to work on it is she is scared that I slip back into my old ways, well that's what she has told me, and I understand that.
I can only continue the way I'm going and hope that it's for the best for my family and not only me?
But if there was somebody else why be naked near me?, why the interest in me, why is she still here??
I sensed a real connection on Saturday, I even thought there was a point were she was going to touch me, maybe she was close, hence the sudden withdrawl, i'm not sure I just need to look after me.
As I have nothing to base anybody else on, should I ask her straight if there is anybody involved?
I asked this a few weeks ago when she dropped the bomb, but she totally denied it, saying it was about how I have acted.
I have to keep focused on me and not think about another person.
I am happy in me and need to keep that my priority.
It's just the mild flirting, walking round half dressed that has me confused, it's like she wants me to react, but is it so that it can be used against me??
