it was a momentary GAIN of sanity, but that's the MLC for you.
And this stuff from him will likely continue.
Originally Posted By: Al
My question is how best to respond. I, like Punkin did, have often wondered whether he knows I have left the door open for reconciliation when he's ready. I feel like this is my perfect opportunity to do so.
This is why I asked the question:
Originally Posted By: Truegritter
A bigger question and one we often don't ask ourselves while we are standing...
Under what circumstances do we consider taking back our spouse?
What does that look like?
Al I am speaking from my own experience. When I was in the home I was the rescuer/fixer.
W was in(still is) crisis and when she would look to me for that role. Now OM is filling that role until it doesn't work anymore...or she takes responsibility for her own actions/choices.
Since he reached out to YOU that gives me an indication that this is a dynamic that has existed in the past???
Not trying to put tacks in your saddle Al. If it doesn't apply to you. It doesn't. Only you can say.
I ask my question because it was asked of me. And it is an important one for the LBS.
It will take the drama and uncertainty out of these communications from H.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
