INTERESTED IN MLC FOR LBS

[Truegritter]

It is so hard to see this and disengage.

Yes it is Bobby. But you must. She has to find her own way. She has been using you in her life for a long time...I expect.

Part of what she is running from is just THAT. You taking care of everything. Even though she lets you do it and sometimes even expects it...she resents it deep down.

Let her stand with HER decisions.

Try to resist the urge to rescue. Even bringing the printer over was a little rescue exercise.

From a former rescuer...think about this.

It validates you when she needs you?

You feel good when she needs you?

You feel it is your responsibility to save her from her own choices?

There are always two dysfunctional people in a codependent relationship Bobby.

Try to recognize this when you feel like doing it.