Did he mess up? Or did you? You indicate that it was OK for him to see other people. You knew you wouldn't be able to hear the results. You asked anyway. Do you really want this relationship or were you finding a way to torpedo the process?
You were separated. He chose you. He had other options. He chose you.
Set your personal boundaries on what your new marriage will look like. (transparency, counseling, integrity, affection, etc.) If he is willing to work on your marriage within your personal boundaries, why wouldn't you want to work on it? If he isn't, why would you?
SpinFree
hey Spin Free..
-In the relationship he messed up, he had previously cheated before we actually got engaged. Ive been a 100% faithful.
- yes i did indicate it was ok to see people...we were seperated..and he said it meant being single.so i was fully aware.
- yes i stil asked. Maybe its just me being a girl, but i need to know everything.
- I do want this relationship...i want to save it... but if i didnt know what he has been doing.. curiosity would just kill me. Its something i need to learn..and that some things are best untold or known.
Ur right i need to look at the bigger picture, he did end up choosing me. I just have to remind myself. U've given me lots to think about, thank you so much for ur input
Me: 28 H:30 M:19/03/09 Renewed vows in home country: 19/03/10 Together: 7 1/2 years Married : 2yr 3 months S:26/06/10 reconciliation started: 1/10/10 Separation 2: 4/5/2011
