You are right freespirit, just it's easier said than done when you love someone so much, even though you know they are cr*apping all over you. You cling on to that tiny hope,
Emotions go all over the place, she's being incredibly nice to me at the moment, hugging and holding, even kissing, it makes me feel like there is hope even without dropping the rope. That's what my heart says but my head says it's just part of the game to her.
Then she asks for pity from me now, how lonely she feels, and how scared she is of failing at college. No acknowledgement of the fact of how she has broken my heart, it's like she doesn't give a damn. How can someone's personality change like that from a loving caring person?
It is a game, she is playing you, you've done nothing to deserve that type of affection from her in her eyes and as per her own words so watch for something to happen.
It's called being tagged, when a woman leaves a man, cheats on a man, hurts/uses/abuses her man while she's having an affair, moving on, etc. When that man finally starts to stand up for himself and move on, his WAW will usually tag him to keep him in line, make him feel that she changed her mind but in actuality, she's just playing you, keeping you line, controlling you so that she continues to run the show.
The next time she starts with the hugging & kissing, tell her to stop. Tell her you can't give her that anymore because of what she did, you don't feel right being with her anymore. She has to feel that you are letting go.
Plus what kind of message does it send that you would easily cuddle up with her, hug & kiss her after she has cheated on you with another man? Why would you or anyone else settle for scraps? Did she have sex with you? Did she want to? She would have sex with a stranger but not with you? So she can go out and have sex with other men but not her husband? But she can come home and be affectionate and cuddle with you? Doing this rewards her for her actions, she learns nothing, she will fight with you again over something stupid, disrespect you again, cheat on you again.
