My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[nicole8]

Well I sent an email to my h proposing how we would take care of our debt and auto loans. He didn't respond. But the next day I got a letter from his lawyer outlining what my h is proposing. The letter was pretty much what I emailed my h with the exception that debts would be taken care of after the house sells... Well that isn't going to work for me. The h is behind on payments to me for all our bills and I would like the debt cleared up sooner than later. So my h sends a text today wanting to know if I'm home and did I draft up letters to clear up the debt issues. He just expects me to "read" his mind and know that he is in agreement with the email. Annoying. Then he wants to know if I know the payoff on the house? Really, we had this conversation the other day. I gave him the account number and told him he could call the bank. Well I guess he expected me to do it? Then he asks who the lender is again. Really, the other day he knew who it was. I'm not sure who the h@ll he is. His memory is horrible right now.
He told me days ago ge left the emissions notice in the mailbox for me. He didn't. I asked him about it and he said not to worry we had plenty of time. Really "we" I think it is just me because I'm keeping the car. If it's "we" is he going to help pay for it?he did drop the info off yesterday. I took the car for the emissions test and it failed. I was not so happy. So I headed to the dealer to find out what was wrong with it. When I pulled up my h had sent a text asking if I was going to be home. I didn't see his message Well then he tried to call and I answered his second call. I told him about the car and he wanted to know why I didn't answer his text. I told him I didn't see a message and he just seemed irritable and pissy that I didn't respond. Not really sure why he even called. So I got off the phone and he had sent a message, just hadn't seen it yet. I'm not in high school and constantly glued to my phone like him. I responded "that I did in fact have a message and just hadn't seen it. Sorry I didn't respond".He responded back... Get this, "I'm used to it these days" Ohh I'm so annoyed by him and just get anxious if I even hear my phone because I want to not deal with him. Funny how it is just one sided. I should be sitting around and waiting for his every call or text. But he can respond to me on his own time. The db counselor I spoke with said this is due to him not understanding that things will change in the dynamic of our relationship yet the h doesn't think they will bye thinks things will always stay and be the way he left them.

I'm prett sure that I have difussed a couple of arguments he was trying to provoke me into. He seems to enjoy the arguing or spewing of words at me. Whatever you want to call it. What i have read is that a depressed person feels better when that are angry.

I'm not going to lie though bi am curious if he is still talking with the ow.