But in your picture you are hitting back line drives. Tennis.. is a game of finesse. Is it not?
yes it is. serve and volley, and the awesome inside out forehand. i've asked a tennis pro at the squash club to teach me how to do it next summer.
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You put "English" on the ball.. to make you opponent go where you want them. Or did I miss something
you're right. you cut the ball, giving it backspin, so when it lands, it just dies while your opponent is trying to make a mad dash to get to it.
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You have had enough free time. Someone needs to get a reaction from you.
here's a blurb: figuring out what i want .. was probably the most difficult part of this process.
i didn't cry when the bomb was dropped. but during the time that i spent figuring out what i wanted, i was a complete basket case.
i worked on several drafts of what i was going to post. but every draft was emotionally charged and full of finger-pointing. on the umpteenth try .. i got as far as this:
Q: do i want to be right or do i want to be married? A: that question is like asking me whether i want to die by lethal injection or firing squad. i don't want my old marriage. a new marriage to h? you carry the baggage with you to your new m. can i let it go? i have shown so far that after 9 months, the anger is still raw and abundant. i don't want to be in a marriage where i'm constantly looking over my shoulder. and what does being right get me? being right got me dumped and alone. and likely be for the rest of my life. as catastrophic as that sounds, i'm not sure if i want another r. i would not want a repeat of this. i know you might think that it won't happen if i do the work, but everyone is different and the next r may bring out other things that causes the r to fail. i don't want to go through life fixing myself after every failed r.
Q: what do i want? A: i want to build the life i wanted. it started with the house. i started to work on the life i wanted when i bought the house. that was step 1 for me. i was tired of wondering what to do. sometimes when the opportunity is there, you have to go for it.
after all these years of not enjoying the 'fruits of my labour', this house represents what i worked so hard for. i want to continue working on my career, take courses, and choose my contracts wisely. my life was just fine before i got married. there was nothing wrong with it. i worked hard, and most importantly, i started to achieve my dreams. i had two cars, in the process of buying an apartment, student loans were paid off, i was debt free and supporting my parents. i enjoyed my bachelorette-hood. life was good.
marriage was a bad thing for me. i had a new set of dreams and nothing came true. i had dreams of having a family. i had dreams of becoming a mother. i sacrificed my career goals because i wanted the job of being a mother. at the end of this marriage, what did i achieve? nothing. now that i'm being given the pink slip, it's probably is a blessing in disguise.
as soon as i got out of that marriage, i started achieving my dreams again. i became a better squash player - which i never thought would happen. i focused on it and i got better and better. i wanted to be a home owner again. i'm getting there - i can't say i have achieved it until i get the keys.
i'm at peace with the fact that i may never have a family of my own and i may never have a shot at the job of being a mother. it's actually okay. there are other things on my wish list that need to be crossed off. i want to work on my career aspirations. i want to step up in my career. earn more and maybe a different role. i've been contracting for a while but maybe it's time to go back to full time employment and snag a management position. i think i'd make a great manager. eventually, i want to be able to travel again - there are so many places that i want to go. San Fran, Australia, Hawaii, Japan. i'm pretty disciplined with my spending. i understand that i have to give up some 'nice-to-haves' for the time being and i've learned to live without a lot of things. but when i am able to indulge a bit, i'd sure like to have a spa day. i've never had one. EVER. i think being pampered is probably the first thing i want to achieve. to be able to experience a day at the spa.
that is what makes me smile and happy.
at one point, i said that life is fun and it feels wrong to be enjoying all this fun by myself. it's meant to be shared. instead of waiting around or looking for someone to share it with, i'm just going to enjoy it for what it is.
i don't know if that answers your question FG.
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"got my groceries and wine .. and walked to the door to take the stairs to my apartment. it's odd .. my heart didn't race."
Did he "see" it?
i don't know. i didn't look at him. i think he got out of his car by the time i was in visible range. i'm sure he saw the wine though. what would she be doing with a full size bottle of wine? she doesn't drink much. hmm i wonder what she bought.
these games aren't fun and i'm not good at it. it's time to stop and work on me. the m is not worth saving anymore.
