John, you have so many reasons for being "forced" to communicate with her. Let's be honest here, you WANT to communicate for any reason. And that's because you can't let go. Everything is always "the right thing to do". Tell her to call her EA if she needs support during the loss of her grandfather.
I'm not trying to be insensitive here but your feelings mean nothing to her. There is a difference between being loyal and being a sucker! Your at her beckond call every minute of the day. Is she there for you? The answer...... NO!
M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14 EA - July 2010 NC w/EA - Nov 2010 Piecing - Jan 2011 I ask for div - Jan 2012 Div papers filed - Mar 2012 I move out - July 2012 Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012