I think the house foreclosure process that was put in place because of a lack of incomes on both of their parts killed whatever security she was holding on to, I'm sure she's glad to get rid of the house and be free of mza because she blames him for losing the security in her life. Every time she looks at him, talks to him, communicates in any way to him, she is reminded of that fact that he killed the security in her life, no kids, no house and having to start all over again from scratch at her age is something I'm sure she is deeply resentful of, most people would be.
Well that's just wonderful. I'm not disagreeing with you just upset with myself that I am responsible for taking away her security. Huh, I just thought to myself that I can't win and remembered that's exactly what W said to me last week about her.
She does blame me for the house, she told me so. When I asked her why she cried in the basement last week she told me because it's hard with the house. This makes me feel miserable everyday. It's her decision though for her to start all over. She doesn't have to. It's her choice to leave. As far as the house we can always get another/better house.
Several months ago I even offered to her that she move back in to the house. I said I would not move back in so she can be alone. I offered to bring all of the furniture back and also have the dogs stay with her. I said I would still pay half for all of the bills. I wanted her to have time by herself. She said she thought about it but didn't think it was a good idea.
If she would have signed any of the loan modifications we were offered we could have saved the house...for either her to live there or to give us unlimited time to sell it. She chose not to do any of it. She's so hurt and not trusting. Not sure what else I can do to help that with her? There is a very slight possibility that I can still sign the "trial" loan modification by myself without needing her signature. The bank said they might accept this. If that's the case then I might be able to stop the foreclosure. I would be responsible for the trial period payments myself. It would be very tight for me. I don't care though. Maybe I can pull it off to give us more time to sell the house. Looking into this possibility.
mza I'm not saying that any of this is fair and when it happens to you it sucks and I know at the time that you didn't have a job you were going through a tough period in your life and I know it would have been a lot easier if you had some support that you obviously didn't have during that rough patch.
Chin up bro, if nothing else, it's a learning experience, something to grow from.
