What am I supposed to do???

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pinhead-thank you for the support. My husband has a hard road ahead of him and I am not going to be around anymore to help.

KellBell0820-that is what I said wow lol. It is a shock to me but then its not because my H is so dumb. I am taking the steps to make sure me and my kids will be fine. Thanks for the support.

lovehurts2-Thank you for the support. I am going to look out for me and the kids.

Mystik-there are very little hurts that hurt like it does when you find out that your H is having a baby with someone else. I have asked him to lets have another baby in the past and he told me no that he did not want anymore children. He told me that he is getting older and don't want to have to deal with children anymore. Less than 7 months he had a baby by another woman and it is the boy that I wanted. I always wanted my son to have a brother since he had 3 sisters. I have found a lawyer that I am interested in and I am going to call and setup the consultation tomorrow.

soliel-I am going to setup the consultation tomorrow. My husband is absolutely a d-ick. My husband could have left and not done all the things he has done to hurt me. He is intentionally tearing me down and crushing my heart. I can't keep going through this emotional pain. I am not sure if he is the father but I feel like it is worse to lie to me about being the father than it is to just tell the truth. If he is lying about it then he is tearing my heart out for no reason. That hurts even worse. I already have a order for child support established. We make about the same amount of money so I would not be able to get alimony or spousal support probably. We would only have to deal with visitation. Thank you for your support.

Well my husband came by the house yesterday to "see the kids". I put in parenthesis because he has not been by in forever to see the kids then yesterday he wants to come over. He came upstairs to talk to me and I told him to get out of my room. He was like what's wrong with you. I said maybe it is the fact that you keep hurting me over and over again. He sat on the bed and asked me if we could talk. I told him I would talk and he could listen. I told him that I was done. I told him that I don't ever want to be with him again. I told him that I was tired of him hurting me and I will not deal with it any longer. He just sat there with a surprised look on his face. I told him that he kept telling me to get over him and to move on and that is what I was going to do. I told him that I am going to be making some changes for me and my kids. He asked me if the changes I was going to make would affect him. I told him he would find out. He said well if they are going to be taking more money out of my check I can't have that. He said that he barely gets $400 a check now because they take all of his money in child support and insurance for the kids. I told him that he will get some information soon. He asked me so what are we going to do now are we going to be friends or what. I told him that no we can't be friends, we can't be cordial for the kids, and we could not coparent. I told him that I wanted nothing to do with him. So I told him what I would do is when the kids want to talk to him they can call him. If he does not answer and call back I will give them the phone to answer. If I need something from him in regards to the kids I will text him and he can text me back. I told him that I don't want to talk to him on the phone ever again. I told him that when he comes to see the kids that I would leave or either be up in my room until he leaves. He was just looking at me like wow.

So he told me that he was looking for an apartment. I asked him why are you looking for an apartment and you just had a baby. Don't you want to stay with your baby and girlfriend? He was like I need to have my own. I was like whatever. So he went and played the Wii with the kids and I asked him was he staying for a while. He told me yeah so I got dressed and went over a friend of mine house for a few hours. So when I got back he said alright come on and give me a hug. I said no. He said well can I have a hand shake. I said no and made a face. He said why are you making that face and I said because I don't want to touch you. He said okay then dueces and walked out of the house. I told my Pastor today that I am getting a divorce and he said that it did not matter to him. He said that he would stand by me whether I stay with my H or leave my H. I am so glad to have support from you all and my family and church family. I got out of church today and my H sent me a text telling me that they had an emergency at the hospital with the baby last night. I don't know what he expected me to say. I did not text him anything back. I mean what I say and I am done with him.